I am 28 yrs old and a ca final student

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Hi everyone. i needed some advice. i am 28 yrs old  and still a student. i cleared pcc 3 yrs ago. actually i lost my mom 5 yrs back. so i hv been very depressed and cant focus on my studies. i gave my pcc after mom died and i cleared 1 st group in one attempt and second group in the other attempt. i only appeared for one group at a time. and after that i went into a major depression. so since last 3 yrs i have not appeared for a single final attempt. now i feel like a total waste and very gulity for spoiling my own life. i can barely concentrate on any thing. i am nt even working. and not even studying. the gulit is killing me inside. i am very worried of when i will finish ca and get a job, get married etc. people around are only degrading me and putting me down. i dont know if i will ever be able to come out of this hole?i dont know if i will be able to geta job? i have lost all my friends also..can ne body pls guide me? i will be grateful. plssssssss help!

 

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Look Riya, it surely is sad that you lost your mother. I understand that it does impact one's life, but then at the same time as they say, the  show must go on.... you do need to take it up once again with full determination and am sure you will succedd at it...do it for your mom..I am sure she will be happy to see you achieve your dream...

Madam , Never give up. Try once again. I too had an accident on feb 11 and had head injury.so i too could nt give till now. U r not alone Just try

Dear Riya,

I know what depression is as one of my friend is suffering from depression from last 3 years because a friend of him ditched him..... Even he is a CA Final student..... I have seen him crying like hell...... But you will suprised to know, now he is studing like hell to pass CA exams and stand infront of his friend who ditched him..... He wants his success to bury his friend.....

 

Coming to you, see loosing someone is always a big loss in life..... But think something, if you work hard and pass the exams how happy will your mother be.... Just imagine.... Stand up and study..... Study as if nothing else matters to you......  Leave your friends..... Friends will only be a part of your happiness....... Work hard... Become a CA and then stand and speak infront of your friends..... 

 

I am ready to be your anonymous friend if you need one.... You can pm me when you want...... But u got to promise.... U will start studying from today......

 

Best Wishes,

Sourav

Dear, Riya!! Never Give Up!! I UnderStand Your Concern As I Am Also Loosing My Father At The Agd Of 10 And Gone Through Lot In Lifee!!! Dont Worry , Take A Deep Breath All Good!!  Do CA For Your Mother!! Take It As A Your Mom Dream!! Why You Said You Loose Friend We All Are Here, See We All Are Here , As Your Friend, Brother, Sister, Motivator, Professional!! Start Preparing Today And Believe You Do It!! You Are A Champion Dear!! No One Has Guts Like You!! You Are So Brave!! And If There Is Any Problem Regarding Studies Or Anything Just Come Here We All Are Here To Help You!! We All Are Family!! 

Ohk Sister!! Hope You Feel Something Relax After Reading This!! 

Your Brother

Mohd Javed Khan

Madam, Tough times never last, but tough people do.. God would post challenges in one's life only after considering his/her potential. This adversity could be fought down only by u. That s y god has placed things like this in ur life. A off season is quite most common in everyone's life. Nothing has gone wrong. Never too late. There r so many untapped territories in life that could give meaning to our life. It s time break the void state. Get into action. Break the barriers. World honours warriors.

Hello Riya.

"God has Created Life and death to to test Who in this world are best in conduct and therefore he shall reward accordingly.He has also promised that Every soul shall taste death."Quran.Your mothers loss was  yes,a loss attachement,a loss of companionship.A mother is the best of the companions to have,Who is there in this world Who could give  better companionship than a mother.?

But Try Finding Solace in God.He Best of best Companions.He is the ever most merciful.HIS mercy is greater thn a mother.Call him by the best of the names you can when you need him.He will respond.

I will write some wisdoms to you here which God willing shall help discover what Life is all about,is it just all abt CA.

"How can you be Patient about a thing about which your knwoledge is not complete"Quran

Commentary :Do you think all your friends who have got a job and Done with CA are happy or Do you think ,if you had got a job you would be in better position than what u r in right now.No You simply are not patient abt future abt which your knwoledge in just not complete.

 

If you want to see many Investment bankers,Lawyers and Management consultant Who have a job and yet wanna kill themself.Check this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWxMDdLey0E.

Patience .The Peer who passed out CA before dint get an oppurtunity to train himself with what patience is abt.

But you learn this valuable tool and Pass CA.Nothing Like Patience.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKTFSpLE15c

Good luck.

 

 

 

Riya mam Its sad to know that u lost ur mum so early. But you neeed to get up, wake up and make life happier. Ask your family to take u to the nearby hill station. Just relax and enjoy every moment there. Then start afresh. It was my eighth ipcc attempt when I cleared. Remember, Age is just a matter of mind, it doesn't matter if you don't mind. Happy life... stay blessed
Dear Riya, Pease dont give up in your life for anything. Try it and you will get the thing you want. Sometimes it takes time to get things which we want. Life is full of ups and downs. Ignore them who are pulling you down. You do your harwork and get CA exams cleared and show them that you are not coward. As Mohd Javed Khan said in his reply that we are all family its right, if there is any difficulties regarding studies or job we can help you out. In any circumstances you should not give up. "THE SHOW MUST GO ON AND ON AND ON"
Dear mam, please dont lose hope. This is ur test which the god is taking. If u pass then u will definitely rewarded. Kuch aisa kar ke dikha khud kush ho jaye khuda.
Hi sis,I know what ur going through right now since I lost my father in a road accident when I just started my ca,I also went through a mild depression but eventually I passed cpt,ipcc and I'm in final now and I'm also a ranker in Cs.what I can say is1.just assume that ur mom is with u and u don't lack in anything2.let people say whatever they want to degrade u bec. they may be jealous3.i can say that u and me are better bec. At least we have spent some time with our parents but what about orphans and think about them 4.about ur age that's not a concern bec. I know people who started their Ca at 28 and ur just 1 step away 5.just dream about clearing ur final and study hard and smart once u clear it ur life automatically will become beautiful 6.to conclude everyone have problems in their life but its up to u how u deal with it,just believe in itself and rest is in ur hand.all the best
Dear Riya, Don't think about past bcoz whatever u r thinking is ur past , past always gives pain. Now u r in present nd u r required to build ur future in such a way that it brings u a lot of happiness. The same thing was done with me when I was in CMA foundation i.e., 3 continuos death in my relation. on that I knows the meaning of Depression. During that time my mind is totally blocked. After a few months I was appeared for my foundation but not able to cleared the exam again I was appeared for exam but not able to clear. My friend , my relative or neighbour started to say that Sonu You skip this course just do graduation bcoz this course is very tough. and after sometime I really started to think that this is really tough kyunki itne log keh rahe hai ki hamse nahi hoga iska mtlab nahin hi hoga. Mere bhaiya ne mujhe bahot support kiya aur kaha ki bhai tum kyun nahin kar sakte kyunki tum 2 attempt mein nahin pass ho paye ho ya tumhe log kuch kehte hai isliye. Aur bhaiya ne mujhe kaha ki bhai bas padhai kar aur dusre ko mat dekh ki wo kya sochenge, aur kya bolenge agar tu unki baate aur beeti batein sochega toh padhega kab . Professional mein bhai itna samay nahi hota hai ki dusre ki baate bhi sune aur beeti baate bhi. aur yeh bhi ki log kya kahenge. Bhai professional wahi banta hai jo professional hota hai. Don't think about "SAMAAJ" bcoz as per my view Samaaj is a group of unemployed nd uneducated people. bcoz unemployed peoples have lots of time to think for others kyunki wo apne baare toh kuch soch nahi paaye. nd uneducated people have no sense to think about wrong or right. They r totallt non sense. aaj main CMA final main hoon aur CA article. kyunki main woh saara negative baate positively liya. Agar aap un logon se really mein badla lena chahte ho toh aap unlogo ki baate jo aapko concentrate nahi karne deti hai unki baate positively lo main jaanta hoon ki kehna bahot aasaan hai lekin karna utna hi muskil. but aisa karne ka bahot hi benefit hai . aapne suna hoga ek teer do nisaana but yeh ek aisa teer hai jo kai saare nisaane karwata hai. Agar aap aiaa karte ho toh kya hoga. 1st Aap CA ban jaaoge 2 nd woh saare log jo jaane ya anjaane mein aapko hurt kiya wo dhire dhire ........... marenge. 3rd Aapki shaadi ek acche gharon mein ek acche ladke se ho jayega 4th nd imp. aap apni maa ke sapne bhi pure kar chuke honge wo bahot khush hongi jab aap bahot khush hoge. Plz achieve ur goal. Must watch Last life changing seminar by Sandeep Maheshwari on you tube. BEST WISHES SONU
What I can say is U CAN DO IT..... UR I CAN IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN UR IQ... ALL D BEST...
Hello riya..i would suggest you to ist of all move out of your home, till the time you will be in your home, you will be surrounded by all the negative thoughts nd mishappening. Go to some nearby public library or ca institute library and don't isolate yourself. Try to make new friends or bond with your old friends nd don't feel guilty abt what happend. At some point of time we all are facing challenges. Just be happy nd think positive. The day you will b happy and positive you will be able to concentrate on your studies. If possible join some hobby class for an hour. And regarding your marriage trust me its all destiny. Just live your present m sure ur future will be bright. I can say all ds bcz i lost my mom few years back nd it does effect ones overall life. All i can say is ca is just a part of your life, ist of all be positive and happy. Things will fall in its place. And when it comes to age dere is never too late to follow your dreams. Start looking life on a broader way, things will change eventually. Please feel free to contact me personally.
Try try and try.... When you get tired just think about your mother and try it once again for... Never give up.. And the people that make you feel depressed, bream your links and ignore.


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