Life's Small Stuffs

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Imagine a situation…..

Time:- 2 PM,

Day:- CA Result day,

You are on site www.caresults.nic.in continuously clicking refresh button.

The massage on site “Results is likely to be declared…” suddenly converts into enter your seat no. Very excitingly you entered your seat no. and hurray you are Pass. Congo..Can you explain this joy? Now let the little time pass, you have been congratulated by all your loved ones, you are flying in air and now let’s think of next day. Is your happiness has gone? No? You are still very happy, cheerful. Now will it last forever? Confused? Let’s think easily..

The point is that apart from some big stuff like result, birthday, and some other celebrations a small pleasure have gone from life. Are there very few occasions to be happy? Can’t we be happy each day, each moment? Is happiness receding from modern society or is modern society receding from it? Is it becoming more elusive to us or are we becoming blinder to it? Is it becoming more difficult to attain or are we setting the bar too high? At times when we look at around we see a world that is discontent, grasping and floundering. I see a world at war with itself, a population of carnivorous shoppers, and people with excess attitude, explosive tempers, and insatiable drives to acquire "things". What has happened to us? What are we becoming? Where is the friendship? Where is the "here and now?" Where is the happiness? Let’s have a tour to find happiness, for that first we have to find where happiness resides.

Where happiness resides?

Once I was given a book “Don’t Sweat for Small Stuffs” but I really disagree with it, Life’s happiness as well as grief mainly resides in small stuffs. Happiness we feel in big stuffs is not just belongs to that stuffs but its due to consequences of that stuff. Why we feel sad with negative result? Just because of  being failed? No we feel bad because we could not move ahead; we have to study everything again. Same way we feel so good with positive result because it puts us one step up. We become happy because now we are near to our goal; we become happy because it changes society’s perception toward us. Now think why we feel happy with an acceptance of proposal by our loved one? It’s just because of his/her acceptance? No, it’s because now onwards we have someone to share all our happiness and sorrows, we have someone to laugh with us, we have someone to cry with us. So funda is that happiness resides in consequences of big stuffs.

Now let me stop you for a while, just try to remember the dinner that you have enjoyed the most up till now. Now tell me is it the dinner at any five star hotel or any Gala dinner you had in any conference with all formalities? “NO”? I am sure that the dinner you have enjoyed the most is that which you had with your friends with silly comments without any formalities on occasion of birthday or marriage or may be something else. Now another matter, tell me when have you laughed like mad creating pain in your stomach or bringing up tears in your eyes? Is it on watching any comedy movie or a standup comedian? Again no? Let me tell you it must be on your or your friend’s silly comments or cracking a fool joke at some serious situation. If you tell the same comment to someone else than he/she may not find is so funny but only you know how much fun you had. So apart from anecdotes matter is that happiness lies in life’s small pleasures. Remember life will be dull if we never indulged our selves. After getting an address of happiness lets go there.

Way to Happiness:

Way to your happiness is a way you think in your routine life. Our personality, our impression in society is based on our thinking. We become what we think. If you are there is a best seller book “The Secret” by Ms Rhonda Byrne, The funda of this book is Law of Attraction. It says that we attract things, situations, and people towards us by our thinking. Incidents happen around us are just due to our thinking. It may not be fully accepted in all the situations but I have experienced that in many situations. It’s true. We many times say that “Akhir Vahi Hua Jiska Hume Dar Tha”. Then why is it so? Let me give you a funky example of it. In mainly SRK’s movies we have seen that beautiful heroine is going somewhere and our lovely hero says “Palat..Palat..Palat” and thank god at least at a last step she turns back and gives a beautiful smile to our lovely SRK. Ya it’s funny but think that apart from director’s wish, our SRK’s wish also encourages that beautiful lady to turn back. So funda is that we believe or not but our thoughts affects what is happening to us. I think we all know the funda of our sub conscious mind. It is said that if we fit any thought in our sub conscious mind than it happens in real. Same in the case of happiness, we can be happy only if we mentally accept it. So we can say that the way of happiness starts from our mind. It’s based on how we visualize all situations happening around us. So only we know what makes us happy. Let’s check it…

This will make you happy.

Care:

Care is what we all need at any stage of life. In childhood we expect care from Mom & Dad, in teenage we expect it from our friends, in youth from bf/gf or from would be partner, then from our spouse and at last in old age from children. Care always makes us free from all worries. We definitely care for our dear one but matter is of showing care in routine not only when some need it. Don’t say whenever you need me I am with you instead say I am always with you. Try it, small matters will make you very happy. I think, at any time you must have given a chocolate to a small child. Remember that happiness felt by cuteness of that little baby. Let’s see what Joann C. Jones have said about care.

During my second year of nursing school our professor gave us a quiz. I breezed through the questions until I read the last one:  "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"  Surely this was a joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank.  Before the class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our grade. "Absolutely," the professor said. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant.  They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say hello."  I've never forgotten that lesson.  I also learned her name was Dorothy.  - Joann C. Jones

So friends, too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Just be caring by nature (and ya boys keep in mind that even girls also like a caring heart than the muscles) so just care. Now let’s move ahead on the way of happiness…

Be your self:

I am very bad at dance (am sure one day I will be good) but at present you can say that I even don’t know “D” of dance. So generally in parties I was used to be in corner ignoring invitations to dance.  But in DJ Night organized in last SRC, I danced with my friends till the end of the party. There were many good dancers but I was not concerned with them. I just enjoyed myself a lot; and believe me friends it was the best time for me. So matter is that just be yourself. We many times loose many pleasures in life by thinking that how we will look?, what others will think about us? Here remember formalities and protocols must be followed as per the situation. We cannot behave same in party and a business conference but just forget everything when it’s time of enjoyment just be yourself. In hangouts with friends what’s wrong in enjoying Dhosa-Sambhar directly by hand instead of using Foke and Knife? Or what’s wrong in enjoying Noodles in your own way (you know how). So whenever you get a chance, forget everything just do whatever makes you happy. Society is not concerned with your happiness only you have to be concerned with your happiness. You are not dancing for others; if you like singing than who is Justin Bieber? You are not enjoying food for others, then why not to do in manner which you like? There are many examples like these but now you think about it. So simply be your self don’t feel ashamed in enjoying yourself.

There is nothing wrong in Crying:

To write about happiness and to be happy both are very different. It may be very easy to say Be Happy yaar but no to be. Sometimes some matters pinch us that much that in spite of knowing everything we cannot make up our mind to be happy. In such situation don’t be ashamed to cry alone, of course in public we may have to make drama of happiness but why should we cheat ourselves?  Once in a TV show, Dharam Paji has accepted that many times he had cried alone in room. Crying is not showing weakness. Even Salman gets disturbs on seeing Aish. Birth and Marriage both are occasion of happiness but we all know crying is related to both of them. Crying makes us free, even scientifically crying is good and it reduces pressure on heart. Whenever  you are surrounded by circumstances which makes you cry don’t boast for being strong just close doors of your room and cry freely don’t worry no one is looking at you. All your thoughts will come out with tears. You will feel very relaxed afterwards. Remember for society there is no value for your emotions so never be sad in public. If you laugh, world will laugh with you if you cry, you will cry alone. So always be joyful, cheerful, dashing in public but don’t cheat yourself. So now let’s go ahead.

Dreaming:

Let me stop you again. Just think about a beautiful evening on a river side. You are in brand new Volkswagen Beetle with your loved one playing your favorite songs. Enjoying? Ok now come down to earth; do you have Volkswagen  right now? No? Than how can you enjoy this? That’s the matter, in life we can’t get everything as soon as we desire. We all have many dreams which are yet to be fulfilled. Whenever you feel sad just try to visualize your dreams. We all must be aware of reality of world, our capacity, and our present status but with keeping this entire in mind what’s wrong in thinking what makes us happy? Whatever I am telling here might be unacceptable at first but tell me haven’t you ever dreamed for what you are not having presently? It may not be possible, presently, to visit favorite hill station or ride in the Merce or Ferrari. Don’t worry your mind is just yours be crazy think, visualize, dream everything is yours. As I mentioned earlier law of attraction works on this; never stop your mind in thinking crazily. Don’t bother about others comments on your dreaming. Just let your mind be free and let it make you happy..

Got it friends? It’s completely up to you that you are happy or not. You decide what makes you happy,

Being happy is something you have to learn. I often surprise myself by saying "Wow, this is it. I guess I'm happy. I got a home I love. A career that I love. I'm even feeling more and more at peace with myself." If there's something else to happiness, let me know. I'm ambitious for that, too. - Harrison Ford

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