Can you name one ultimate thing which everyone in the whole world wants to have? Yes, it is Happiness…!!! Will you please introspect for the minute and ask yourself the reason why we are working for day and night? To buy a house? To open your own business? To purchase a Car? These things will ultimately lead you to some form of joyous feeling called happiness… But will that feeling last lifetime? The answer is big “NO”.
So, what can be done to enjoy the everlasting happiness? Some of the points are given below, which might help you.
Happiness is an Inner state of being : Let me tell you a small story, which has helped me a lot.
From 30 years, one beggar was sitting on the old dirty box but never looked inside the box because of it’s the dirty appearance. Once one stranger came and asked the beggar to open the box and atleast have a look inside the box. When box was opened, it was full of precious diamonds.
Similarly, we all are in search of that diamonds but we have never bothered to look inside ourselves. The first key to happiness is the decision to actually be happy. As Lincoln said, “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” If you wait for happy moments, you will wait forever. But if you start believing that you are happy, you will be happy forever. Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.
Today, commit yourself to be happy come what may the situation. Constantly remind yourself that – ‘I am in-charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness’
Be you : Embrace the fact that you aren’t perfect and neither is anyone else. If I ask you to name all the persons you love, how long would it take to name yourself? Just because a group of people do not accept you as you are, there is no necessity for you to strip yourself of your originality. Never stoop down in order to gain recognition. Never let go of your true self to win a relationship. In the long run, you will regret that you traded your greatest glory – Your uniqueness, for a momentary validation. Even Gandhi was not accepted by many people. The group that does not accept you as YOU is not your world. There is a world for each one of you, where you shall reign as king/queen by just being yourself. Find that world, in fact that world will find you. You are here to be you, Just YOU. Enjoy your own company. Learn to be your own best friend.
There was a time in this world when a Krishna was required and he was sent; A time when Christ was required and he was sent; There came a time when you were required on this planet and hence you were sent. Let us be the best we can be. In the history of the universe, there has been nobody like you and to the infinity of time to come, there will be no one like you. You are original…You are rare…You are unique…You are wonder…You are masterpiece. Celebrate your uniqueness…!!!
I recommend you to try this Mirror magic - Whenever you look at a mirror, instead of identifying flaws in your face, just look at your own eyes and sincerely appreciate your beauty, and if possible loudly say this words to yourself ‘_______(your name), I love you exactly as you are’
Celebrate each moment : Celebration isn’t only for our big successes. Celebration is for every step we take on the journey to create our vibrant life. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away.
Do you remember, when we were kid, we used to enjoy even the smallest of moment like playing with pebbles, dancing in the rain. We had a sense of enthusiasm in everything. But by the time we grew up, we went into the vicious circle of stress, sadness, worry, fear, Anger, jealousy, Anxiety and unhappiness. The feeling of Love, appreciation, Curiosity, excitement and joy are hanged to death.
Now as an adult, we hardly celebrate the small events. Do you remember when did you laughed uncontrollably last time? Don’t let the positive emotions die the miserable death. ‘Death is not the greatest loss in life; Loss is when life dies inside you while you are alive’.
Convert dates of calendar into memorable moments and make today worth remembering. Try to incorporate fun element in your work, then work will no longer remain a burden but it will become an enjoyment. Reward yourself on achievement of smallest goals, this will give you motivation to step ahead towards your dream. Stop waiting for a better day to come. Live in the moment, enjoy it and today will become the day you have been waiting for.
Try to enjoy the small things like kid… Appreciate yourself… Feel good about yourself and Go crazy…!!!
Love unconditionally : The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance. Love means, you accept a person with all their failures, stupidities, ugly points and nonetheless, you see perfection in imperfection itself. To give and not expect return, that is what lies at the heart of love. There is no expectation of being loved in return. Even if the other person doesn’t love you do not make any difference in your love. Life is really nothing without Love and Care. Give it to everyone but don’t expect it back. Because it’s a FEEL not a DEAL.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or a smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Love without condition; Talk without bad intention; Give without any reason; and most of all, care for all the people without any expectation.
Attitude of Gratitude : Gratitude is a dynamic tool of transformation. It has infinite power. Gratitude signifies thankfulness for what is, making one appreciate the moment. It is movement from negativity into light and love. Even in times when it seems that nothing could be worse, there is always a reason to be grateful. When in trouble, we can choose to move away from complaining and grumbling. Focus on what is right in the moment and not all that has gone wrong. Be grateful for the job and take focus off the difficult colleague. Be grateful for a healthy body and take your mind off the knee that is slightly hurting. If you’re rejected – ACCEPT; If you feel unloved – LET GO; If they choose someone or something over you – MOVE ON; Remember that : In every NO from someone, is a YES to something better…You have to focus on what's good in your life, not what's bad then, Life will work in magical ways. As Lao Tzu says,
“Be content with what you have,
Rejoice in the way things are,
When you realise there is nothing lacking,
The whole world belongs to you”.
At the end of the day, sit in the relaxed position and list five or more things you are grateful for every day. This is a powerful and transformative exercise that does create joy and smiles.
Get rid of Race : There is a kind of race/competition going on in this whole world. Most dangerous race is the Race for money. Everybody is in the race just to make money. They spend their whole life only to collect money. Money is the essential thing to live life, but is not life itself. Take a time to be with your family, take a time to do what you love to do. We do not need a high living standard, expensive cars and big mansions to be happy. It is good to have money and the things that money can buy, but make sure you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy. We don’t need everything to enjoy life, we already have LIFE to enjoy everything..!
Please remember one thing, ‘We are not living to earn money, but we earn money to live’.
I will conclude with the following quote :
“Work for a cause, Not for applause… Live life to express, Not to impress…
Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, just make your absence felt…!!