(We first make our habits, and then our habits make us)
"To be where you have never been before, you have to do what you have never done before"
"90% of people don't do things which are required to achieve their goals"
Let's take an example of some goals of our life like Financial Freedom, Perfect Health & a Lively Relationship.
If we want perfect health, we should have to do regular exercise & eat healthy foods. One common habit related to our health is, we all know the composition of our body i.e. 70% liquid & 30% solid so accordingly, we have to take our food i.e. 70% liquid food & 30% solid food.
If your goal is to have a good relationship with everyone & you want everyone should love & care for you, then you have to invest quality time (even go for a date not only with your GF & BF but also with your mother, father, brother, sister & all others with whom you care about). If your goal is to be financially free then your habit should be savings, making a financial budget & making regular investments.
Now ask yourself, how many new habits you are developing related to your goal? We set our goals in life but in the middle, we forget to set our habits. It is a hard truth that only our habits will help us to achieve our goals.
If your goal is to pass the exam then you should have to develop some habits related to the exam which will help you your goal. Below are some golden habits which you should develop in yourself.
"काक चेष्टा, बको ध्यानं, स्वान निद्रा तथैव च |
अल्पहारी, गृहत्यागी, विद्यार्थी पंच लक्षणं ||"
- एक विद्यार्थी मे यह पांच लक्षण होने चाहिए
We know these are some common habits which we are listening from our childhood but ask genuinely to yourself how many times you have followed it. In ancient times, Sadhu/Guru/Monk used to act as a guide to the ruling king.
They used to be keen, alert & had insights/deeper knowledge of everything. It can be related to any subject, be it related to kingdom management or treasury matters, etc. What made a monk a monk was his habit to understand & analyze things deeply & practically. Since ancient times, it is believed that if you want to have deeper knowledge or want to achieve something great in life then you should have the habit of self-introspection in life. Take the example of Steve Jobs, the Founder of Apple Co.; Jay Shetty, a great social influencer; Vivek Bindra, India's top entrepreneurship leader or even Honorable Prime Minister of our country, Narendra Modi. All of them had one thing in common which is when they were not able to find the purpose of their life, they invested few years of their life by living the life of monk & after self-introspection, they got clarity in life. I am not asking you to become a monk. All I want you to have some qualities which a student must have so that he becomes successful in life. These qualities helped me in transforming my life & these are mentioned as follows
1. काक चेष्टा - कौवे की तरह चेष्टा
The first and foremost notified habit is to be willing to put in all the possible efforts in doing the given/required of the job. All of us have heard the story of a thirsty crow where the crow did not lose hope & although the water level was very low, it put in all the efforts & achieved its goal & quenched the thirst. In the very same way, a student is required to put in all the efforts in the assigned job despite worrying about the result.
2. बको ध्यानं - बगुले की तरह ध्यान (Follow the laser light Focus in Life)
Have you ever seen a crane(bird) capturing fish? Crane ponders over the water & grab the fish from the running water. It has a great ability to be completely focused on doing its work. Similarly, a student should be as focused and as concentrated just like a Crane. You might also have heard about Arjun in Mahabharata. He concentrated on his target. He didn't let the outer world/surroundings pressurize him or divert him from his target. So, focus on the target only.
Don't bother yourself about the past, don't get lost in the future & concentrate on the present. I like to present it this way- "Past comes to tear, Future comes to fear, enjoy present my dear"
3. स्वान निद्रा - कुत्ते की तरह सोना
If you observe the dog, you might notice that the dog gets alert after hearing the slightest noise. In the very same way, a student should be as aware and alert as a dog. The motto of ICAI CA Institute reads as follows - "Ya Aeshu Suptaeshu Jagruti" which means "a person who is awake in those that sleep"
Some tips for Healthy Sleep
- Have more quality sleep than the quantity of sleep.
- Never eat after 8 pm.
- The mixture of food should be like 70:30 where at least 70% is vegetables/fruits/ liquid items & 30% is chapati or any other whole-grain food.
- Sleep alone during the exam period. If possible, try to avoid sleep on a comfortable bed & sleep on the bedsheet/mat spread on the floor.
- Learn the art of sleeping posture. Sleeping on the left side aids digestion so try to sleep on the left side.
- Stay away from all digital devices at least one hour before sleep as digital devices emit blue light which signals the brain that it is still daytime and the brain feels less sleepy and the quality of sleep gets hampered.
4. अल्पाहारी - आवश्यकतानुसार खाने वाला
Eat less. It's the most important habit because while trying to inculcate this particular habit, you will turn out inculcating another habit consequently. If you eat less, you'll sleep less.
Eat as much as required by the body for survival. You must have heard about this line – "Khane ke liye mat Jeeo, Jeene Ke Liye Khao". Never forget that overeating is more dangerous than undereating.
5. गृहत्यागी - गृह-त्यागी होना चाहिए (कहीं पे पहुंचने के लिए, कहीं से निकलना जरूरी हैं।)
One should inculcate the habit to stay away from home. I am not saying that you leave your home behind. What I mean to say is that you leave your comfort zone. When we are at home we often get comfortable and avoid facing the outer world problems. But yes, if you'll stay away from home you will get one step closer to achieving your goal. To be a successful person you have to control & win your emotions. I'll take the example of Ramayan. What if Rama hadn't left his home, then he would have been called King Rama like his father and grandfathers. He left his home and when he came back, he was called Maryada Purushottam Rama.
Take the profile of any great person on this planet you will see one common thing among them that they give priority to learn new things in life & for that, even if they have to leave home, then it is not a big deal for them.
Earlier students used to go to gurukul for 12 years for proper education. Some barriers are invisible that stops us from doing our duty.
It may be your home, your locality or your city because people want to live in familiar surroundings & try to avoid changes but always keep in mind that change is only constant & you will have to adjust accordingly or become enough brave that you can change the course of that change as per your terms. Most of the time I say that remove all your barriers and step out of the comfort zone because if you don't remove the barrier, it may stop you from giving your best.