Sometimes, in order to become emotionally and mentally strong, you have to be broken down to your weakest point in order to build yourself back up. Not only broken down, but ripped to pieces in order to realize that life is not that fairytale that you grew up wishing upon.
That is when there comes a time when you have to stand up and shout: 

This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the

way I feel, love the way I love! And M worth everything in this world!