Discover the 90 / 10 principle, it will change your life(or atleast the way you react to situations)
Now a days the employers are recruiting their personnel by considering the element Emotinal Quotient. Those days are gone where Intelligent Quotient was important. Now EQ rules. So it is high time to know about EQ.
what is 90 / 10 principle?
10% of your life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
what does this mean??
We really have NOcontrol over 10% of what happens to us.
The other 90% is different, YOU determine the other 90%.
HOW...by your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction.
Let me use an example:
you are having breakfast with your family.
Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
OPTION 1:
You curse.
You harshly scould your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scoulding her you turn to your wife and you criticise her placing the cup so close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battles follows.
You storm upstais and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse should leave immediately to work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30mph spped limit zone.
After 15 min delay and throwing Rs600 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the school without saying goodbye.
After arriving the office 20 min late.
You realise you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.
WHY??...because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day??
A)did the coffe cause it
B)did your daughter cause it
C)did the policeman cause it
D)did you cause it
the answer is "D"
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds caused you bad day.
OPTION 2:
Here is what could havce and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you.
And your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say
"Its okay hoey you just need to be more careful next time".
Grabbing the towel you go upstairs and change your shirt.
You grab your briefcase and come down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on bus. She turns and waves.
You arrive 5 min early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Notice the difference!!
Two different scenarios
both started the same
both ended differently
WHY??....because of how you reacted.
It only takes will power to give ourselves permission to make the experince.
Absolutely everything we do, say, or even think, its like a boomerang...it will come back to us.
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