Some of our faces!!
It’s funny how we meet people and assume that how they interact with us
in whatever context is how they are in most and all context.
Example: Â Someone we interact with in social context who seems extremely
pleasent to us might be quite uptight in professional relationship. But we assume
that the one face or say the first impression we encounter is what we carry across
all spheres in our lives. We also tend to get shocked when we see another aspect
of same person.
I have been thinking about this for a while or easedropping on people’s conversation.:-)
. My favourite hobby.
Anyway, I conclude we have multiple faces (broadly!! I am sure there are many sub categories
if I decide to get into more psychoanalysis).
On a broad category level, I would say 4.
Social face: How we interact with people in a social setting, relaxed and chilled
environment, over dinner, over coffee, with friends or people we want to be friends with.
Professional face: How we interact in our working life- with our bosses, colleagues,
people who work for us, clients and many more.
Marriage/Dating face: How we behave when we want to woo or are attracted to someone.
Or are s*xually, emotionally in a more intimate relationship.
Family face: How we behave when are parents are around or our understanding and relationship with them.
One individual can behave and be very different in each of the above faces.
Example: Person B is very happy shanti type fellow. Chilled out. Has multiple girlfriends.
Everybody likes him. Thinks progressive in a social content. This is his social face.
But he is scared of his parents. He is considered how they view him, what opinion they hold
of him. His interaction with them is very what they say, I would go by it. That is his family face.
When we see these two aspects we get shocked and say how and why? It does not make sense.
This is because we assume the person to behave, think and be the same in every scenario.
We want consistency. We want what we see or would like to believe about the person.
I can site so many examples from within me and people I know around.
What we do not understand that human beings are complicated. There are multiple faces
and expressions that we have and project. A lot of our emotions arise from social conditioning
and the environment and relationships we have grown up with.
To accept all dimensions of human kind
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