TOUCHING
Some people highly recommend touching those you’re conversing with. If you cannot bring yourself to touch, at least make an effort to convey the message of touch through your facial expression, tone of voice, and words. The preferred opinion is that, except for handshakes, one should refrain from touching people who are business or social acquaintainces.
The logic is that one is far more likely to err by touching someone who doesn’t welcome it(and uninvited touching feels very aggressive to many people, both women and men) than one can err by being warm and friendly and limiting oneself to shaking hands
A person is unlikely to leave you complaining to a friend, ‘She didn’t hug me! What’s the matter with her?’ However, the person whose space was invaded by an unsought-for touch might well feel ruffled and displeased.
The CEO of a famous company once said, ‘When i meet new people,I’ll grab their hand, shake it, and give a bear hug by putting my other arm around their shoulder, They might be taken aback. They may try to take two steps backward. Or they may simply relax and enjoy it. But they don’t forget it.
You might make you own decision about how effective touching and bear hugs are, but the discreet, unassailable position is to save your hugs for friends and family..
MINGLING
One of the simple rules about conversation in a business or social gathering is that you move from person to person or from small group to small group so that, in theory at least, you spend a little time for everyone.
For a one-on-one conversation, arrange a coffee or lunch meeting with that person for another time; don’t single out one of a number of people for an in-depth chat.
Most people are familiar with the commandments to mingle, so they will be as willing to let you move on as as you are to let them.
When you encounter someone who has cornered you and is impervious to a hint, you can free yourself by backing away, by saying something very smart....(Coming Soon)
ENDING A CONVERSATION
Most conversations find their graceful, conveniebt, and natural enf when those involved realize it’s time to change partners.
In the event that you are trapped by someone lacking this sensitivity, you need to extricate yourself. Signaling wildly to friends to come to your rescue in a strict No-No. Rolling your eyes or being otherwise rude to the long winded one is not a good idea either. This person was invited and is obviously of interest to your host or to your company, so u don’t want to be offensive
Then what to do?? A preventive measure is to always fill your glass only one-quarter full so that you have the excuse of going for a refill..
Coming Up – GOLDEN GOOD-BYE LINES J
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