Rise in love, don't fall in love

Much of daily life tends to be ordinary and unexciting. Making steady efforts day to day can be trying. It’s not always going to be fun. But, when you fall in love, life seems filled with drama and excitement, you feel like the leading character in novel.

But if you lose yourself in love just because you are bored, and consequently veer from the path you should be following, then love is nothing more than escapism. What you are doing is retreating into a dream world, believing that what is only an illusion is actually real.

And even if you try to use love as an escape, the fact is that the euphoria is unlikely to last for long. If anything, you may only find yourself with even more problems along with a great deal of pain and sadness. That is why I believe people should not get involved in relationships lightly. It is like this famous saying, “ Do not treat love like a game’.

But then some of us would say Love happens or there is nothing called love or love is blind. We often get into a discussion on this topic and come up with various views on love. But the fact is there is no set answer. There are as many views on love as there are people. I don’t think we can find any blanket policy on love that will win everyone’s consensus. If love could be explained logically, all the agonizing it causes would vanish from the world. I read it somewhere that, Love is a complex matter that is a reflection of each person’s attitude and philosophy towards life.

Ideally, love should be a force that helps you expand your life and bring forth your innate potential with fresh and dynamic vitality but as the saying “LOVE IS BLIND” illustrates, people often lose all objectivity when they fall in love.

A healthy relationship is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals while sharing each other’s hopes and dreams. If you are neglecting the things you should be doing, if that person is your central focus, overshadowing all else, then you and the person you are seeing are only being a negative influence and hindrance to each other. Neither of you will be happy if you both just end up hurting each other.

Antoine de Saint – Exupery, the author of THE LITTLE PRINCE, once wrote, “ love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction.” It follows then that relationships lasts longer and is healthy when both partners share similar values and beliefs. Rather becoming so love- struck that you create a world where only the two of you exists and succumb to the view that love is the be all and end all.

Nonetheless, the bottom-line is that, without respect, no relationship will last for very long nor will two people be able to bring out the best in each other.

So, Don’t follow the literal meaning and ‘fall in love’ - Rise in love, you and I, keep rising.

This article from THE SUNDAY INDIAN

JUST DONT FALL IN LOVE .....................ITS HURTS........................................