Some people would rather be right than happy. You’ll know when you find yourself defending a position or an opinion in an argument. You find it impossible to climb down, let go, withdraw, concede, because you believe that would be losing. And you cannot accept the thought of being seen as a loser. Winning equals happiness and losing equals sorrow, that’s what you think. But hold on a minute! When you are doing that, how do you feel? You are certainly not at peace with your self, you are not content, there is no joy in your conversation and you are unhappy at the thought of losing this…battle! You’ve forgotten it’s only a conversation; it’s only an exchange of views. And who created all this inner noise anyway? You did. Is it ever worth it? In fact it just becomes a bad habit, and the absence of happiness becomes almost permanent. Time to change. Winning an argument isn’t winning, it is simply the ego’s way of trying to convince you that you are victorious because you avoided defeat.
Question: With whom and in what situations do you tend to habitually find yourself defending opinions? (it’s usually with the same people, and with similar issues and situations). How do you feel during the process?
Reflection: How can you see yourself responding differently in this situation so that you don’t lose your calm and your contentment?
Have a Great Day Ahead…
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