Shabda Bramha
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Joined July 2011
The main problem of some of the so-called ambitious persons is that they cling to one life-spoiling pre-conceived notion that if I can't do this then there is nothing meaningful left for me. Hence, they see every failure in their pursuit of their dreams as a screw in their coffin. And when the dejection gets better of them, they land in no man's land - almost segregated from the rest of the society. If only they could see or if only they had somebody to help them see that life has much more to offer than what appears at first sight. But for that one has to explore every path and be patient.
Alas! in today's high-paced society, with so many potential competitors, there is hardly any parent who inspires her/his child to be patient, to accept failure gracefully and move on with life if it seems(after reasonable effort) that further endeavour will be of no help. And as these hapless people are not taught these virtues at home ( and we all know, learning begins at home), they succumb to the ever-mounting pressure created by both parental/familial expectation as also self-expectation.
As a part of my MSW dissertation - titled " parental pressure and stress on children aged between 9 to 12 years", I was rather shocked to find one little girl of Class III in answering to one of the questions in my questionnaire for them wrote that she considered none of her classmates to be her friends. For her, each one of her friends was her competitor!!! And sure, it can't be the way she was born to think.
It is high time for us to change. Else we run the risk of having a nation inhabited by a good number of depressed citizens in not-so-distant-a-future.