Originally posted by : Bhaavna
Originally posted by : CA SURENDRA KUMAR RAKHECHA
Is not people allowing us to help itself is help ??
The most touching "words"
Until a person "helps" other;
he will not get RESPECT from the society
when he gets RESPECT from the society;
it means the whole society acknolwedges his "deeds" in RETURN
despite the recipient may not RETURN ( even Thanks) at all.
Sir i ve a doubt,
SAY, IF I FORCED TO HELP (DO SOME THING THAT MAY NOT BE NECESSARY BUT USEFUL)TO SOME ONE, WHO SAYS THAT THEY DONT NEED THE HELP, EVEN THEN I DID SOME HELP, LATER ON I AM SAYING TO WHOLE WORLD THAT " I HELPED TO THEM DUE TO THEIR NECESITY:", WHERE THE PERSON WHO RECEIVED THE HELP CLAIMS HE DINT ASKED HELP.
Is this could be called as a help or FORCED HELP? Will such help brings any respect ? Doesn't it means hurting self respect of those who got help ?
The doubt i asked is just to clarify with Rakecha sir and experienced elders. Not intended to hurt any member in CCI.
Many times people don't allow others to help either because of self respect or ego.
Still you help them means you are bound either because of your good habits or decide (determine) to help looking to the circumstances.
Please read my post again very carefully.
A person helping other should not expect even thanks from him.
Hence a claim which is made later on; is not ethically tenable especially when he denies for it.
Let this work be decided by the SOCIETY who will ACKNOWLEDGE it without your expectations.
And very interestingly;
the society will analyxe his words and will come to know that despite he denied for help; you helped him.
Now I am asking one question to you:
At what point you feel happy :
1. When you help others
2. When you get recognition from the society?
DON'T COUNT YOUR GOOD DEEDS;
FOCUS ON YOUR WRONGS TO CONVERT THEM INTO GOOD ONE.
Can you say what wrong one is doing after helping other?
And finally; what if when you did something wrong (claiming credit) and
other denies for it (that you did "something" wrong)?
To make it clear; when it is established that he denied for help and you did that "mistake" despite that; the society (your friends etc.) will forego your mistake and will appreciate your deed ultimately.
The true action is you must accept your mistake that yes; he denied for help. And don't say any word thenafter. Accept this mistake now!
NEVER MAKE SMALL ISSUES BIG.
BIG IS WHAT YOU HAVE NOT EVEN IMAGINED SO FAR.
Repeating the disclaimer....as you mentioned...in your post..."Not intended to hurt....CCI"